Results for An Immovable Goal

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 After just five minutes, Spain’s World Cup appeared to be heading from chaos to calamity They went into Friday night’s clash with Portugal in Sochi enveloped by controversy and drama after the shock sacking of manager Julen Lopetegui just two days before their opening game Within moments of kick-off – with former sporting director Fernando Hierro now in charge – they gave away a penalty that Cristiano Ronaldo dispatched with his usual aplomb  At this point, Spain could have imploded. They were not playing the fluid, tiki-taka football for which they are so well known, while European champions Portugal – sitting deep and playing on the break – looked like a tough nut to crack But it was the most un-Spanish of goals that shifted the narrative yet again. A long ball forward to Diego Costa, bullish hold-up play from the old fashioned No 9 and then a ferocious finish.  Still, Spain’s current appetite for self-destruction was not quite quenched David de Gea, arguably the world’s best goalkeeper, made an uncharacteristic error on the stroke of half-time and Spain’s recovery needed to start all over again And that’s exactly what happened. Another ‘anti-Spain’ goal from a set-piece to level the scores, and then an early contender for goal of the tournament from defender Nacho – the same player that gave away the early penalty  But, with time running out, there was one more twist in the tale – and it was Ronaldo who wrote the final chapter The Real Madrid star, against the nation where he plays his football, fired an incredible free-kick in to level the scores and seal his hat-trick Despite the late drama, the match felt redemptive for Spain. In a match of high quality, they showed they will be a massive challenge for any team, manager or no manager But, ultimately, this was Ronaldo’s night. GROUP STATE OF PLAY  Portugal’s late equaliser against Spain means both sides are tied on one point apiece, leaving Iran – who bagged a stoppage-time own goal against Morocco earlier in the day – top of Group B overnight PERFORMANCE OF THE DAY  In his fourth and perhaps final World Cup, Ronaldo finally etched his mark all over the competition In his previous three tournaments, the 33-year-old had scored just three times total He matched that tally in 90 frenetic minutes in Russia. A nerveless penalty, a long-range effort that deceived De Gea and then a truly unforgeable free-kick late on Portugal were often on the back foot, but with Ronaldo anything is possible.  Notable mentions: Diego Costa dragged Spain back into the contest in Sochi with a bullish performance up front and Isco pulled the strings behind him, while, in the day’s early kick-off, Diego Godin proved to be an immovable presence in the heart of Uruguay’s excellent defence PICTURE OF THE DAY  The despair and dejection was etched all over Mohamed Salah’s face after Uruguay’s dramatic late goal against Egypt The Liverpool star was described as ‘almost 100% likely to play’ by his manager, but watched the entire 90 minutes from the bench The Pharaohs missed their talisman badly. WHAT’S ON TOMORROW?  For many, Saturday June 15 will feel like the day the World Cup starts There are four matches in total, with the first – France against Australia – kicking off at 11am BST and the final game – Croatia against Nigeria – getting underway at 8pm BST in Kaliningrad  There will be a host of superstars taking to the pitch, from Paul Pogba and Antoine Griezmann to Lionel Messi and Luka Modric Look out for Peru too; the South American side are at their first World Cup since 1982, have brought an enormous following to Russia and play some genuinely spell-binding football at times

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i thank god for giving me this opportunity  to start on a series on the role of women in   the family in the church and in the society in  this starting session i just want to introduce   the topic and set a foundation upon which we can  build the subject as we go on before we get deeper   into the subject we need to understand some basics  so that we can place this role of women in the   overall program of god we need to look at this  from the grand scheme of god's plan for man   and when we look at it from this perspective we  understand it as a small unit yet very significant   in the ultimate purpose of god so women  have their own roles and responsibilities   to make the work of god glorious it is like  building a huge building like a skyscraper   it is not constructed by a single person it takes  a collective effort to build a high-rise building   there has to be a plan a coordination  between different departments delegation   of responsibilities and also involves people with  various skills to work together within the scope   of responsibility to support the smooth progress  in the construction if one group fails in doing   their task the whole effort becomes a failure each  one is accountable to their superiors and there   are guidelines that are set which they have to  follow through for the completion of the project   it doesn't matter how simple or complex one's role  is every role is significant in the whole process   during the construction when is when it is all  completed everyone gets the credit and doesn't   matter what the individual role was similarly  god has a great master plan in ephesians chapter   5 verse 32 paul says this is a great mystery  but i speak concerning christ and the church   in the eternal councils of god even before he  created man and woman he had a glorious plan   concerning christ and the church it was kept as  a mystery meaning it was not revealed in the old   testament but it was unfolded to man after the  coming of the lord jesus christ into the world   when apostle paul presented this mystery he  presented it when it he was dealing with the   subject of the relationship between the husbands  and the wives he placed the responsibilities of   husbands and wives alongside with this  great mystery that he was referring to   which is christ and the church so when we want  to study the subject and apply it in our personal   life we have to always think of this model which  is christ and the church it is pointing towards   what christ has done and what he  continues to do today do even today   now that's the pattern that is set before us  we when we try to fulfill our responsibilities   we have to come back to this this is the  immovable goal towards which we are going to   so it has to be always in our mind about  christ and the church so each individual   family is significant in the grand program  of god they are single units that are given   specific responsibilities to make the plan of god  glorious as it will stand by itself as a reality   as the church throughout the eternity manifesting  the perfection and glory as christ purchased   possession so within the family women have roles  to play depending on their specific situation   they have an important role to play in the  master program of god so what we are going   to look has a great importance and relevance  in the eternal perspective of divine plan when dear sisters consider this role that god  has given you you should take it as a privilege   to be part of accomplishing god's glorious plan  should be always committed to fulfill your role   even if it requires some sacrifice from  your part think that there is no sacrifice   greater than our lord's and that should motivate  you to be truthful to your call of responsibility   please note that you are not just left alone by  yourself but you have all the resources needed   together with the guidance of the holy spirit  with the support of godly men in your life   it is not so easy but god knows what you can  handle and he is there to help you and he is   there to help you succeed when you come before  him with your need he's there as a high priest   he knows your struggles your problems and your  true heart to fulfill the responsibility that he   has put in your heart and when you come before him  and present your need before him he will help you   he will help you to navigate through the life's  uh tough challenges so that you can be successful   you can be success successful in fulfilling  your responsibility in ephesians chapter 5 we   also read that christ loved the church and  gave himself for it and he is sanctifying   it and he wants to present it as a glorious  church without spark or wrinkle or blemish   but in perfect holiness christ's love for the  church sets the pattern for us what he has done   and now what he is doing in his present ministry  should motivate us to fulfill our responsibility   so that he gets the glory for his great work  of redemption in ephesians chapter 5 and 6   when apostle paul refers to husbands wives  children fathers servants and talks about their   responsibilities he says that they have to do it  as to the lord women's role should be fulfilled by   following this guideline by looking under the lord  and always keep in mind that it is to the lord   and for his glory his obedience to his father  and the sacrificial love for the church is the   pattern that is before us he was he was obedient  to his father every moment in his earthly   life and fulfilling the father's will was  the object that was before him in his life   he went through difficulties and problems and  everything that came across him he was able to   overcome because one goal was in his mind that  was the cross to fulfill the will of the father   the very purpose for which he came to this world  was to die for our sins and he kept on going   no matter what tried to deviate his attention  he was ready to go he was ready to give himself   there on the cross of calvary and we see that how  wonderfully he fulfilled his responsibility of   dying for us and that shows his greatest  love his sacrificial love for us and that's   the greatest picture that is before ha  before us he's obedience to his father   and his commitment to the church and his presence  will always uh be with us and he will guide us   and it is he that you are looking to fulfill  your specific role may the holy spirit help   you to fulfill all your responsibilities and  and i seek the guidance of the holy spirit of   god as i continue to take this study in the  days to come may his great name be glorified you

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Your outcomes in life are often a lagging measure of your habits. We think the thing that needs to change is the bank account or the test score or the number on the scale but actually the thing that needs to change are the habits that precede those outcomes. Rather than making the goal the default, the thing that you focus on almost exclusively let's make the system the default and then only check in on the goal occasionally to see if we're moving in the right direction. Achieving a goal only changes your life for the moment it's actually not the thing that you're looking for. We think the results are the thing that needs to change but it's actually the process behind the results. Like if you have a messy room, let's say your bedroom is mess and you set a goal to clean that room you can get motivated and do it for two or three hours and then you turn around you have a clean room for now. If you don't change the messy habits that led to a dirty room in the first place then you turn around two weeks later and you have a messy room again. And so actually you don't need a clean room you need better cleaning habits and then your room will always be clean. You don't need to lose weight you need better eating habits and then your weight will always be around where you want it to be. You don't need more money you just need better financial habits and then you'll always have enough money to manage the thing that comes up. And umm... I think that's one of the reasons why small habits matter so much they don't necessarily transform your life overnight, right, right away, like doing one pushup does not transform your body but it does cast a vote for being the type of person who doesn't miss workouts. Or meditating for one minute might not give you an immediate sense of calm in your life but it does cast a vote for being a meditator. The real goal is not to run a marathon, the goal is to become a runner. The goal is not to write a book, the goal is to become a writer. Because once you have adopted that identity you're really not even pursuing behavior change anymore you're just kind of acting in alignment with the type of person you already see yourself to be. It's kind of like true behavior change is really identity change because once you've changed that internal story it's way easier to show up each day, you're not even really motivating yourself that much to do it you're just like this is who I am now. There's sort of this like yo-yo effect you know, like someone trains for a half marathon and then they run the race and that race motivated them to train for the last three or four months. And then the race ends and they stop and take a week off than a week turns into two weeks than two months and so on and then they turn around like four months later like, man, I haven't ran in months like I need to sign up for a new race or something. Because if it's all about the goal as soon as the goal is achieved you don't have that motivating you anymore. But if instead it's about being a runner then even once, even once you finish the race you still have a reason to show up again the next week because you're like, well, I just, that's what I do is I run, - that's who I am. - Right? And so I think that that's a more... in pretty much any domain true long-term thinking is really goalless thinking. It's much more about being that person, developing that identity, following that system and then you just happen to realize your potential along the way. So what you come to realize is that your habits reinforce a particular identity and sometimes this can be positive and sometimes it can be negative the story could be things like, I'm bad at math or I'm terrible at remembering people's names or I'm not good at remembering directions. And all of those stories... that's just an internal story that you tell yourself but each time you have an experience that reinforces that the story gets solidified. And so I think the method, the- the takeaway here is that every action you take is kind of like a vote for the type of person that you want to become. And if you can master the right actions, if you can master the right habits then you can start to cast votes for this new identity this desired person that you want to be. Good habits become easy habits when you can learn to find joy in delaying gratification. There's no rush build for the long term guys. It's as if they're standing at the foot of a mountain, they can see the summit they can see the thing they want, I want to make an impact what they don't see is the mountain. This large immovable object you can go up fast, you can go up slow I don't care but there's still a mountain. What they don't understand is that life, that relationships and career fulfillment are a journey. There's no app for that. I got nothing you've got to go through the slow plotting, annoying, meandering process called career and life. Everything in my life, when something got hard, I quit. I wasn't great at reading, I wasn't great at writing so I just quit. I couldn't catch on as fast as you, I had to work harder than you, so I quit. Like man, if I could just go that distance, that extra mile to just go, ju- just to finish I want to feel victory and victory for me wasn't winning, it was just finishing. This is one of the things that's challenging about building better habits is that they're very easy to dismiss on any given day right like what is the difference between eating a burger and fries for lunch or eating a salad not a whole lot on any given day your body looks basically the same in the mirror, the scale hasn't really changed. It's really easy to dismiss it in your mind and say, "Oh, this is kind of insignificant" but you know you turn around 2 or 5 or 10 years later and you realize, "Oh, wow, those daily choices really did add up." It's just much harder to see on a granular basis. The cost of your good habits is in the present and the cost of your bad habits is in the future. And the fact that we prioritize the present over the future ends up making a lot of habit change difficult for that reason. The ultimate form of intrinsic gratification is a reaffirmation of your desired identity. So if you... if your desired identity is I'm the type of person who doesn't miss workouts or I'm an athlete. Every time you're doing a squat literally, you can be in the middle of the rep and you're already getting gratified because you're acting in alignment with the type of person you want to be. It's like, "Oh, I just did that rep, I didn't miss this workout, that feels good" Umm, now, I do think it takes a little while to get to that point where that actually feels like you. You know, you can imagine somebody goes to the gym for the first week or the first month they don't quite identify that way yet because they haven't spent enough time there. Steven Pressfield I think it's in "The War of Art" he has a piece where he talks about a wolf and how the wolf develops a territory right? But the only way that it develops a territory is by being there, by walking around the terrain every day and then it starts to feel like this is mine, this is my home. And he talks about writers doing that by like you make the chair and the computer and the desk in your office your territory, becomes your terrain. And I think that that is true for most habits too like when you walk into the gym for the first time you feel very uncertain it's not your territory, you don't feel like it's your terrain. But once you show up again for a week or month or year at some point you cross this invisible threshold where it starts to feel like, "Yeah, this is for me" or "I belong" and that I think... once you've crossed that stage it becomes more likely that you can get that kind of reaffirmation of your identity and start to instantly feel gratified. But there are other things that you can do in the short term to feel more gratified while you're working on those habits. So here's just one little tactic, let's say that you're either trying to work out or build a habit of meditating or something and so each time you do your habit of meditating for five minutes you have this little jar of marbles and you've got like 100 marbles in there and 90 are red and 10 are blue and after each instance of your habit you walk over and you pull a marble out of the jar. And if you pull out one of the 90 then nothing happens it's just like a pat on the back, good job you did what you're supposed to. But if you pull out one of the 10 then you get some kind of reward, that's exciting to you maybe you get to watch Netflix for an hour and not feel guilty or go for a walk outside or take a bubble bath or buy yourself a new jacket, whatever it is, like something that that feels rewarding. And what you just did was you introduce an element of immediate gratification and of like surprise and delight to the whole process. And so... yeah, that first week when you're meditating you still might not identify as a meditator or you still might not have a sense of calm watch over your life but you have this other interesting thing that is rewarding right away that maybe gets you to stick with it while you're waiting for those long-term rewards to accumulate. Well, so we do have and this definitely plays an important role in habits we do have a bias toward the present and that makes sense, right? That example I gave about like finding a berry bush you know, 100 meters away. Well, you should in fact go get the food that's close by and not the food that's on the other side of the mountain because that just makes logical sense, you'd rather have it now especially when we were not in modern society, right? For 99.999% of human history we're just trying to survive like every other animal. And so, umm... you should try, you should prioritize immediate food, immediate shelter, immediate water, immediate safety. And in fact our brains are wired to do that. But modern society is a whole different ballgame because we have all these things that actually you should prioritize delayed outcomes. So you go to college now and then you graduate in four years. You save for retirement today and then you retire decades from now. You show up at work this week and then you get a paycheck in a month. And so, it's actually like there are all kinds of things we do in modern society that require you to delay gratification and that runs a little counter to what our wiring is or what our pref- biological preference is. There's a sort of an a misalignment of rewards that often happens with habits. So there's an immediate outcome, an immediate reward and then an ultimate reward. And for your bad habits, one reason bad habits stick so readily that they they form so easily is because bad habits often the immediate reward is favourable. Right? Like what's the immediate reward of eating a doughnut it's kind of great. It's sweet, it's sugary, it tastes good. It's only the ultimate reward if you repeat that habit for 6 months or a year or two years that is unfavorable. Meanwhile, good habits are often the exact opposite the immediate reward of going to the gym or going to the gym for like a week isn't really that great your body's probably sore. You don't have much to show for it, your body looks the same, the weight hasn't really changed but if you stick to that for 6 months or a year or two years then the ultimate reward is favorable.